Here they are as promised, a selection of opening lines to help you capture the moment the next time you bump into a potential Mr. or Ms. Right. Since they were inspired by my friend Lara, I have dubbed the list: Lara’s lines.
One word of advice, it’s important to be light with your approach and don’t take things seriously. Remember the idea is to have fun.
YOU: “Did you feel that? (Pause for his reply).
He’ll usually say something clever, like… “Feel what?”
YOU: “I think we may have just had a moment”
If he says nothing you can finish his thought for him.
YOU: “This is where you say, I think so too.”
If he’s receptive, you can introduce yourself. If he’s not, you can always say over you shoulder as you walk away, “Well it was nice not quite meeting you.”
Compliments are always a safe bet. I mean who doesn’t like receiving a compliment. Obviously the more sincere they are the better they will be received and the less superficial you will sound.
“That’s a great color on you.”
As women we’re already perceived as experts. This line leads to several possibilities of follow-up conversation. You can ask about his favorite color.
If he’s not good with color, you can joke and describe the difference between men and women when it comes to color.
YOU: “Count on men to know at least two colors: black and brown. Most men are satisfied with the Crayola 8 pack while women require all 64 colors.”
Some men may be offended when you make broad based statements like this. If that happens, you can always say that you’re just generalizing for fun. However, if he’s that uptight run.
You can always stop and ask for directions or recommendations. Obviously you know where you’re going but he doesn’t have to know that. This line of questioning takes some advanced planning as it is situation based. Are you home running errands? Are you in a city on vacation or business?
YOU: “I’m so tired of eating in this hotel, would you know a good restaurant near by?”
YOU: “I’m new to the city, I only just arrived yesterday, can you recommend a good way to spend a few hours in the afternoon?”
YOU: “I’m looking for Crescent Street can you point me in the right direction?”
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Compliment what he is wearing and ask him where he got it. Tell him you have a 30-year-old nephew or godson and you’re looking for a birthday present. Never tell him you’re shopping for your father, as he will question his own fashion sense, or that you’re shopping for your son – save that for later. Conclude by saying that it really suits him. And if you sense things are going well then introduce yourself
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There are days when you look good and you know it. These are days for taking chances with a more playful approach. Innuendo is a good approach with a man that you find very attractive and would consider sleeping with but nothing more.
YOU: “How about a few fast furious rounds?” arch your eyebrows and smile mischievously.
Of course, you were talking about tennis; what was he thinking?
There is something refreshing about a person who is open and honest. It makes us pause for a minute and often times catches us by surprise. You begin by introducing yourself and then follow up with:
YOU: “I find that there are too many “what if…” moments in life. And I don’t want this to be one of them. Would you like to have coffee with me? “
The variation on the “what if” theme is that of regret,
“A wise person once told me that it’s the things that you don’t do that you end up regretting. I think I should very much regret not having met you. Would you like to have coffee?”
Of course, there is always a risk that you run into a jerk or a man lacking a sense of humor. Rather than feeling flattered, as most men would, he is offended. That is his issue and not yours. You can make a graceful exit with the following:
YOU: “Are you always this charming, or are you making a special effort on my behalf? In that case, please don’t put yourself out.” Make sure you say it with just a hint of sarcasm.
YOU: “Oh by the way, the lost and found is just down the street, in case you’re looking for your sense of humor.”
So there you have it, Lara’s List of opening lines…Now go out there and capture the moment!
NB: I was going to end the post here but I just couldn’t leave it without mentioning my all time favorite capture the moment line. Charlie McArthur a Chicago journalist and playwright said it the first time he met the legendary actress Helen Hayes. They were at high-society part together when he approached her and offered her some peanuts. As he put them into her hand, he said, “I wish they were emeralds.”